"You Tell Me!"
Coaching Learners When Progress Stalls

"YOU TELL ME...!"
Coaching Learners When Progress Stalls...
What if… "You tell me" doesn't actually mean they want to be told?
What if… "I don't know" doesn't actually mean they don't know?
What if… "I can't do roundabouts" has very little to do with roundabouts?
What if… "Sorry" isn't really an apology?
Every driving instructor has taught that learner.
The one who seems to stop thinking.
The one who goes quiet.
The one who says, "I don't know," "You tell me," or "I'm not sure," no matter how carefully you ask the question.
It's frustrating. You ask more questions. You explain differently. You try harder.
Yet the more you try to help, the more the learner seems to depend on you.
But what if the problem isn't a lack of knowledge...
What if it's a lack of psychological safety?
In this thought-provoking two-hour workshop, you'll explore the psychology behind stalled learning and discover why many of the behaviours we interpret as resistance are actually forms of protection.
You'll learn how to recognise what learners might really be communicating, why some learners stop thinking under pressure, and how to restart coaching conversations without taking ownership away from them.
This isn't about learning another coaching model.
It's about learning to hear what's really being said.
You'll explore:
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Why learners sometimes stop thinking under pressure.
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The hidden meaning behind common learner phrases.
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Why behaviour is information, not simply attitude.
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How psychological safety affects thinking and decision-making.
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Practical coaching strategies to restart stalled learning.
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The RESTART Framework for moving learners from protection back to reflection.
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The CALM Lens, a simple way to see behaviour differently and coach with greater clarity.
If you've ever finished a lesson wondering...
"Why aren't they engaging?"
...this workshop might help you ask a much better question.
Because sometimes the biggest breakthrough isn't changing the learner...
It's changing the way we understand them.


